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What I L-O-V-E about my JOB

May 26, 2010

SUMMER!  Imagine me singing that word, that is how much I love it.  Dillon’s last day of school is Friday and then we are headed to the rec center to purchase our summer pool pass!  I love when the agenda for the day consists of playing outside, eating lunch outside, taking naps, and then heading to the pool for the remainder of the afternoon.  I love that summer brings later nights, bbq’s ice cream, and vacations.  I love that it means slip and slide and special field trips.  I love that I get to experience these lazy days with our boys.  We’ll set a lose agenda and enjoy our summer. 

Bring on the HOT.  I’m imaging me being sick of the hot come August, but for now..I can’t wait. 

What do you love about the summer the most?  Do you have any fun things planned?

  

Two Wolves-A story to change Your Life

May 24, 2010

An old Cherokee chief is teaching his grandson about  life:

“A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.  “It is a terrible fight and its between two wolves.  One is evil-he is angry, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego.  The other is good-he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.  This same fight is going on inside you-and inside every other person, too”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “which wolf will win?”

The old chief simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Perfection doesn’t exist, but whining never helps either

April 21, 2010

Oh yowzers, I have just read a number of posts about differing versions of not being able to hold up to some certain standard of what their personal life should look like.  The attitudes/tones of these posts are ones of feeling burdened, overwhelmed, tired, irritable. In general a mess, really. Those things are part of my life.  Everyone is a hypocrite at some point in their life.  We just can’t be perfect, but whose trying?  I will admit I am the most imperfect mamma to 2 little boys there ever was.  As I am typing at my keypad I am sick, sick sick.  My brains feel like they are going to fall out, my living room floor is an absolute wreck, the garbage needs to go out, the table needs to be cleared of lunch plates, my bathroom could probably use a scrubbing, a folded load of laundry waiting to be put away (shocking, I know), and there has been a heaviness on my heart for 2 weeks now and that is just the start. I am not complaining, really, I’m just illustrating. 

So if I chose to write a post today about how truly grateful I am for our 1 hour walk today on a hunt for birds, squirrels, and dandelions, am I being unreal?  Or how I am so excited to pursue some of my million ideas swirling in my mind, does that add to the mommy bloggers who are putting on a front of “having it all together”.  I don’t think so, I think I’d just be choosing a different attitude over my day.  At the end of the day, I’m accountable for my attitudes, behaviors, and choices for that day.  Challenging and stretching yourself, hardships and all is part of this journey.  I can ask when will my life get more together, or why wasn’t I born with more domestic or quantitive skills and just wait…and wait….and wait. Or I could ask a more constructive kind of question. What few things can I do today to make our day run a little more smoothly? 

I would never want someone to visit this site and think I’ve got all the answers (ha, ha), but I don’t want to just whine and complain post after post either.  There has got to be a better way, there has to be, for all of us.  For our children, we all deserve more.

Passion, Huh?

April 21, 2010

You’ve heard it over and over, if you just follow what you are passionate about…

1.  You’ll enjoy what you do and it won’t feel like work.
2.  You’ll become a raving success and an expert in your field.
3.  You’ll build wealth and bask in all your glory.

That easy, huh?  But what is my passion?  I’ve searched my hobbies and things that I enjoy to do in my spare time.  I’ve got lots of those:  baking, walking, couponing/deals, blogging, walking, reading, organizing, etc.  None of those would define my passion.  See its hard.  It is now my current  goal.  I want to actually define what my passion is and be able to state it if someone were to ask me.  I’ll need to spend some time exploring what it is that burns a whole in my pocket? Why I’d be able to do this all day and never tire from it?

I know I’ve got a passion.  In fact, I might be on to what it is already.  Stay tuned.

So, if someone asked you today, what is your passion?  What would you answer?  Do have a discovery to make too?

Practical Ways

April 15, 2010

There are so many reasons I love to read other people’s blogs. Among them getting motivated, being inspired, learning new things such as yummy recipes (some even healthy),  mentorship, gaining tips about topics, buying creative and unique books or crafts, gaining spiritual knowledge and the list goes on.  If I ever get around to it or learn how to spruce up this horribly boring and bland site, I’ll post my blogroll.

Well this tip is neither profound nor complicated, but has helped my days, yeah! I had to blog about it and I can’t believe I didn’t think of something like this before.  Setting a timer!  Novel, I know, but listen for a few more paragraphs while I make my case. 

For example, I am one of those weird people who loves laundry.  I start a load first thing in the morning, switch it to the dryer (if I remember) and then my favorite part…folding.  What I hate, hate, hate is putting it away in the proper places.  So it’s usually just sitting around in the basket waiting to be taken to its home.  Another example, I could spend all day (and I mean from 7-7) on my computer.  Now this computer is awesome and has so many positive things, but it can also be a huge time drainer. Let alone, that is not the way I want my life to be remembered.  Oh yes, I can see it now, “my mom, she spent all day on the computer”.   No, those words will not be coming from my family members mouths.

So here is where the timer comes into play.  I’ll set a task, say laundry (the whole thing, folding and putting away) or computer time and use the timer on my cell phone.  I usually always have my cell phone with me.  I get 15 min. (or whatever alloted time), that is it! 

Why this works for me
1.)  It keeps me focused– Instead of spending 30 minutes on Facebook, I’ll spend a couple and move to email. Or instead of clicking on every link in the blog post I’ll just read the post and move to the next one. I only have 15 minutes, better use it wisely.
2.) It holds me accountable– Gone are the days of me spending too much time doing any 1 task, finish up and move on to the next.
3.) It makes my days more productive– There is more of a sense of urgency to the unimportant or mundane life tasks.  I’m a competitive kind of girl, I want to beat the clock!

When implemented, this has been working for lots of things from chores, to going outside, to computer work,  to individual time with the kids, to walking,  to reading/finishing books or audio recordings.  Really, you should try it and see if it makes you a bit more intentional about whatever your trying to do, big or small.

Small Successes

April 12, 2010

Maybe this is a topic you might be able to relate to?  If in my mid 20’s someone were to ask me where I envisioned myself in 5-10 years, I would have said “not here,  somewhere different, somewhere more”.  In college, we all have ideas of what our careers, family, homes, vacations (life) would look like. I was no different.  When I graduated there were lots of dreams and goals that were in my back pocket and well, lets face it, life was not measuring up.  I really thought my professional career would have been more, lets say, fulfilling.  My financial situation would be much more safe, my home would be much more updated, blah, blah I could go on. 

Fast forward.  Even though I still have ideas and unmet dreams and goals to try to reach,  I can say I am exactly where I thought I’d be now.  What changed during those times of trying to fit in and now?  I can say not much changed except my outlook on success.  People I admire most are really those who can carry themselves throughout life with a level of joy, optimism and happiness regardless of their current situation.  Nothing was missing in my life then just as nothing is missing now except for a contentment and appreciation for life’s journey.   Over the years, my definition of success has changed .  Along with it so has the outlook of my current success.  Instead of judging my life in terms of society’s definition of success, I’ve been able to study and learn and create my own definition to strive for.  Yet, even harder, judge myself according to God’s definition of success for my life.  Thats what really matters and that is even the bigger challenge!

Normal Days

April 7, 2010

There are some days that run so smoothly. They are productive. You have lots of energy and your attitude is great!  I love those days, they make me feel like I am on the “right path”.  I wish life were made up of only “one of those days”. I really wish I could always say the right things to my children, discipline them appropriately, give them nothing but food that fuels them, provide them with all the opportunities to be active, keep a super organized and clean home, well….you get my drift.  I experience those days often.  Not an a Pollyanna type way, but a way that I feel as if I’ve actually got this moving in the right direction.  That feeling has not been so much with me the last 5 days. 

Yikes, let me elaborate.  The past few days (and I mean 5) have been filled with racing heart, fatigue, ( I mean the kind that has whipped you where you’ve got nothing left), achy/achy muscles, and an overall sense of fear.  This has been a humbling experience to say the least.  I had no idea what was going on nor how to treat it nor how long it would last.  My self diagnosis was anxiety and my self-treatment was to take it easy.  Take out all expectations for the days and force more hours of mindless down time in my days.  I was going to give it to Friday and then make a dr. appointment who would hopefully be able to really diagnose and treat this horrible inconvenience to me.

Fast forward 2 days of feeling consecutively better and today where I feel “normal”, thankfully.  You know how you hear the expression that the difficult days make you so much more thankful for the great ones (or something to that effect).  That is how I am feeling as I sit here and write.  I don’t know if these fears will come back and in what form, but I do know that God gave me that experience for a specific reason.  I am so grateful for these lessons and that today, I am “normal”.